How to motivate your teenager
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Hey friend!! 🙋♂️ I have a motivation tip for you this weekend if you have an unmotivated kid at home. Next time they're stuck, checked out, or procrastinating something important... Try using a different motivation fuel for them. Here's what I mean: There are two types of motivation and most of us only ever use one! The one we commonly use with teens (and fail) is Pull Motivation. Tony Robbins explains it as PULLING from a future reality that we desire to spark purpose and clarity. For example:
Pull motivation works brilliantly, but only for kids who already know what they want. But most teens don't 😂 They haven't figured that out yet - and that's completely normal!! So when parents point them toward a future they can't quite see, the lever doesn't move anything.. 😣 It's not that they don't care - it's just the goal is too abstract to feel real - especially in today's age of instant gratification. The second type of motivation is Push Motivation. And my team of coaches have been using beautifully lately 🥹 Instead of asking "what do you want and how can we get there?" you flip it. You help them think of and feel the cost of doing nothing. Try dropping one of these questions into a conversation this weekend:
Ask, then watch how they respond 😃 For a lot of teens, those questions land in a way the future-vision never does. Some kids chase the dream. Your job is just figuring out which one your kid is. Try it out and let me know how it goes!! Grateful for youu, |
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